Wednesday, 9 April 2014

Eight Months Down

Image via Ed Hall: Eight
Last week marked eight months of approval and waiting. We have now high jumped over the revised timeframes supplied to us and we are no longer confident that Chile will have children for us anytime soon. The first timeline we knew was approximately three years for a placement, including travel and returning home. Further dates suggest two years but again, we are not holding our breath. I refuse to acknowledge anything less than this.

Of course, it is in the best interests of the children for Chile to place them into our family - we know that and wouldn't want it to happen any other way. So, we do understand that the wait can be long. It is just tiring. We are trying to stay hopeful and positive through our work within our adoption community. However, it is wearing thin as we seem to be the only couple doing so much for so little gain. I know that is completely selfish and I don't mean to sound that way, I truly don't. We do love what we do with our support group - it's just that I wish we could be doing this for OUR kids not everyone elses. Does that make sense?

In other news, PG finally managed to communicate effectively with Adoption Services. They do not have an allocation for us. They had information about what SENAME provides to families who are allocated - a huge document that details the lives of the children before adoption. It is very extensive and we feel so lucky that we do get this information, including detailed health, school and psych reports plus others. Many other countries have very little to give like this and adoptees know very little about themselves, which can be difficult. SENAME is very generous with their info as many of the children are known to them through the foster care system.

 In addition, we now have a translated letter winging its way to Santiago (via email and post) to seek clarification of time frames and whether there is anything else we can do or provide to SENAME to show that we are committed to adopt from Chile. That letter was sent on Friday so we hope to get a response shortly, as SENAME seem to be fairly organised on their end.

Will keep you posted.

Saturday, 1 March 2014

Seventh Month Waiting Game

Another month down and we are no closer to knowing whether Chile has a family for us. At this point we are leap-frogging over the revised deadlines given to us which is not helping our mood. I thought we'd know by now - I guessed February for that phone call - and even PG's positivity is slipping.

So seven months into the official wait, I've decided to give the timeline over to you, our ever faithful readers. Would love to hear your best guess of when we will receive the call that will change our lives forever.

Please comment below if you know when it will happen. The closest prediction will win a personal phone call from us with the news we've all been waiting for.


Monday, 24 February 2014

Learning Spanish

For the past two nights I have been working on a Spanish Language Table, a document that lists all the things that parents say to their children - in Spanish - in the hopes that we will actually need it one day soon.

At the moment, it's all very clinical but I am sure we'll need the Chilean slang for words like wee, poo, etc. 

Any suggestions on what we should learn to say? 

Tuesday, 11 February 2014

With baited breath...

So, PG phoned Adoption Services on the 31st of Jan (our 6-month mark) to find out if they could contact Chile for a 'touch base' to see how our file is doing. (Sounds weird, I know.) We usually get a response a few days later. However, we haven't heard from them yet. Could this mean...?

Saturday, 1 February 2014

Sixth Month Milestone

Today, we have officially been waiting six months since our glorious approval from Chile. 

This potential adoption is constantly on our minds and the dream of being matched to a child or children in the near future feels so close yet so far away. 

Even though we started this journey in Nov 2004, this is the hardest wait so far. 

Imagine what we will be like if we ever do get this phone call?

Wednesday, 1 January 2014